Monday, February 13, 2006

A few sorries..and a thank you

Its another time of introspection: someone has just described me thus: "one person whom I will give the most abuses when I pass out of IIT in three months time. " And the bigger thing is, he told me in the face about it, and I was left speechless with this attack. For he accused me of spoiling everything he had ever tried to achieve in the four years I have known him. Without reason as well, he said. And I had thought him to be one of my good juniors.
And two days before, I got a phone call from a friend, with whom I had a love-hate relationship for four years. And he accused me as well, of never trying to understand him, and always holding him in the wrong. He was badly drunk, and cried about me never had considered him a friend. When, he said, he had regarded me a friend all through.
It seems I have been hit by a cannonball. I thought that the best thing about myself was that I could be a good friend to people. And today, even that illusion has been shattered. I thought I would never let anyone down. And now I realise that I have managed to alienate so many people from my lives, people who could have been my good friends, but whom I lost because I was mean. Or maybe, I was just plainly confused. I have all through believed passionately that the greatest gift that IIT provided me with was the respect of people. I always thought that, my loser status notwithstanding, I was liked by people, which is all that mattered to me. And now people say things like this. It hurts more than all the slaps that my mother used to hit me when I was a child.
This post is my apology to all those who have ever been hurt by me. Trust me, I never did that on purpose; and while I find it hard to apologise, I am apologising now: for being selfish, for being confused, and for not understanding people. I also hope to stay out of any controversy from now on, and just hope that people shall try forgiving me for all that I have ever done.
This poet is also a thank you for someone, being with whom has been a special treat, and has made me feel better about myself than I have ever felt. I believe in myself a lot more than I ever have. And such comments hurt a lot less than they would have otherwise. Thank you.
The other thing that I like about myself is that I have started inspiring people through this blog. A lot of people have been inspired by me to start writing, and I take it as a good sign. The latest to join the bandwagon is a junior, who writes this in his first post:"read many blogs before writing this one and i found that blogs are a portrayal of one's personality . I got to learn many things from blogs like main fundaa of success is setting up a question for yourself and finding answer to it ......... and many more". And guess where he got this fundaa of success? Any guesses?
I once wrote a post titled, "A post a day keeps the frustration away". It has never been truer. And I already feel much better.

13 comments:

Phoenix said...

Cheer up.
you don;t have to please everyone.
Believe in yourself!:)

zubin said...

[Phoenix]I thought I could please everyone. Sometimes its just too difficult, I guess. And I felt better after writing the post. And I believe in myself. Thank you.

Hemu said...

Its a part of life dude !!

Stay urself man , rule the world .

You rock man :)

Musafir... said...

The post comes as shock to me, i would never accept you, if it were not you.

sameer said...

loser!!!hehe

Rana said...
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Rana said...

f the drunk on the phone recited madhusaala (not shaala) as well then dont mind. pee ko woh aisa hi karta hai. Also remember what Winston Churchill once said.

zubin said...

[Nikhil] Perceptions change with time, my friend.
[Sammy] Guess I can say the same to you, and laugh out even louder.
[ManU] You have the wrong guess. I just had a very amicable talk with the guy you are referring to. He wasnt him. It was someone else. I will give you another guess. One year junior to you will be a hint.

Rana said...

He won't call from that far away, would he?

zubin said...

He would, he did a week ago. It was surprising, but he did. And now its my chance to call back.

Ashwani said...

Surprisingly I also got a call from the hinted person here. Thought he would have some work but there was none, we had general chit-chat!

Anyways, i think Zubin I can imagine some people making your life tough at IIT but not the other way round.

Amateur Blogger said...

First of all, I guess you should sue your mom for child abuse :) On a serious note, though, it would be a sad and extremely boring world if you could please all the people in it. What would life be without the arguments/debates/differences of opinion? Holds true especially for a place like IIT where you have overactive minds all over, an atmosphere conducive to competition and rivalry, and would you really want it to be any other way? AB

"rUPi" living @.......y said...

hemu is right.... be urself man.... da qualities u'v, ppl luv to hav them n dy generally envy u for dat... so jst b urself .. u r perfect man...